Why don't people just tell the truth?
Stop beating around the bush, don't always try to be nice to others by not saying exactly what you mean, but lay out on the table exactly what you think. I was in too many meetings this week where people were holding back on what they wanted to say. And they would generalize what they were talking about but not really say what they meant. It pissed me off. The first time was in a meeting with people from around the province involved in a project together. The person "coordinating" (really just has funding to introduce the project to new communities) was made because some people have adapted the project to much to fit his mandate. Fuck. It hasn't completely fit his mandate from the beginning, so there is no point in stiffling the outcomes. He went on about branding and how we need to be careful not to let this project title get connected with things that it's not really about. I clarified for everyone fter about 15 minuts of this bullshit..."what I'm sensing is that your company doesn't like loosing control over this project". He said yes, I was right.
And then...I was in another meeting where we were discussing lived values. How important it was that our staff live out the values of the agency. Everyone agreed that it's something that we all need to work on, that many people don't do that. One of the women sitting at the table (a supervisor) made a comment about how she wouldn't call a client on racism in her program. I said very straight forward that I would in particular if their children were around because they are modelling that behaviour for their children. That was exactly the kind of thing that I was telling the committee about, our staff say that they live out the values at work, but in actuality they don't. Let alone in the community.
I'm not saying that in my life I always say exactly what I mean. I try not to lie to people. And when I do on occasion lie its because I can't justify what I've done or am saying to myself. I screw up all the time and I hate admitting it. But I do think that in work, it is important to be straight forward, not to make others look bad but so that there can be competence in the process.
On top of all of that my grandma was moved into a hospital extended care nursing home on thursday. She can't stand up on her own. We never wanted to move her from her old residence because we thought a move would kill her (she's 103), so I guess we'll wait and see how long she lives. I am going to miss her so much. My aunts and uncle were out this week to help move her. They didn't want me to help move grandma and further more they didn't want to even see me. My aunt who is battling cancer doesn't want to see her neice. Not to mention that these relatives of mine don't give a shit that I finally escaped Dad's death trap of a house, which they wanted me out of 7 years ago but never assisted me in leaving. So why on earth would they want to pay me any attention, they never even replied to my email with my new address.
Beyond all of this, I know that I don't tell the truth about everything that goes on with me. But I also can't make sense of it all myself. I don't always no what the truth is about things around food in particular.
And then...I was in another meeting where we were discussing lived values. How important it was that our staff live out the values of the agency. Everyone agreed that it's something that we all need to work on, that many people don't do that. One of the women sitting at the table (a supervisor) made a comment about how she wouldn't call a client on racism in her program. I said very straight forward that I would in particular if their children were around because they are modelling that behaviour for their children. That was exactly the kind of thing that I was telling the committee about, our staff say that they live out the values at work, but in actuality they don't. Let alone in the community.
I'm not saying that in my life I always say exactly what I mean. I try not to lie to people. And when I do on occasion lie its because I can't justify what I've done or am saying to myself. I screw up all the time and I hate admitting it. But I do think that in work, it is important to be straight forward, not to make others look bad but so that there can be competence in the process.
On top of all of that my grandma was moved into a hospital extended care nursing home on thursday. She can't stand up on her own. We never wanted to move her from her old residence because we thought a move would kill her (she's 103), so I guess we'll wait and see how long she lives. I am going to miss her so much. My aunts and uncle were out this week to help move her. They didn't want me to help move grandma and further more they didn't want to even see me. My aunt who is battling cancer doesn't want to see her neice. Not to mention that these relatives of mine don't give a shit that I finally escaped Dad's death trap of a house, which they wanted me out of 7 years ago but never assisted me in leaving. So why on earth would they want to pay me any attention, they never even replied to my email with my new address.
Beyond all of this, I know that I don't tell the truth about everything that goes on with me. But I also can't make sense of it all myself. I don't always no what the truth is about things around food in particular.
posted by Womyn in Troubled Waters at 12:11 PM
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